Sharing it here so I won't forget
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Until he takes the time to truly heal, he will remain emotionally unavailable.
It doesn't matter how deeply someone tries to love him.
The love she gave was pure, patient, and unwavering.
She saw his pain and chose to stay, to hold space for him, to believe in his potential even when he couldn’t see it himself. She tried to be his peace, his comfort, his home. But love, no matter how powerful, cannot mend wounds that someone refuses to face.
The scars he carried from his past, the trauma he never confronted, built walls so high that her love couldn’t break through them.
And over time, her efforts started to feel like battles, her affection like burdens, simply because he hadn’t done the inner work to let love in.
He may have cared for her in his own way, but caring is not the same as being ready. Readiness requires healing. It requires self-awareness, accountability, and the courage to sit with one's pain instead of running from it.
She gave everything she had to a man who wasn’t ready to receive it, and in doing so, she began to lose pieces of herself.
Because no matter how deeply you love someone, you cannot save them from themselves.
He has to want to heal. He has to choose to face the darkness inside him. Only then will he be capable of not just receiving love, but reciprocating it in a way that’s healthy, honest, and whole. Until that day comes, he will continue to push away even the most genuine love, not because he doesn’t feel it, but because he doesn’t yet believe he deserves it.
And sadly, by the time he realizes what he had, she may be long gone, tired, heartbroken, and finally choosing to pour her love into someone who’s finally ready.
~ Cody Bret
